“We Are What We Eat”

Hey guys, so the other day I was sitting on the bus and suddenly I remembered that some people say “you are what you eat” and I just sat there and contemplated that for a little while and came to a conclusion. I thought it would make an interesting blog post because there are lots of people who dislike their weight or their body and go on diets to help them lose weight and feel better about themselves, however, I also feel like there are some people who are already naturally skinny who are avoiding eating certain foods because they think it will immediately make them fat.

I think our definition of fat is way too wide, there are larger people but that doesn’t make them fat. There are also slimmer people but that doesn’t make them unhealthily skinny. The thing I think most people don’t realise is that everybody has a different body shape, literally every single person in the entire world has a different body shape to the next, bodies are completely unique and no one person looks the same as another. There are a couple of girls I know who are both really, really tall and really, really skinny and sometimes I look at them and think that they must be unhealthily skinny because they really are skinny but then I realise how ridiculous it is to think that and they’re perfectly healthy it’s just how their bodies work. Comparing myself to these girls that I know maybe people would consider me fat because I’m nowhere near as skinny as them but I am skinnier than lots of other people I know, but that doesn’t make them fat either. This isn’t a post where I talk about how beautiful and slim I am though, I’m just using myself as a general comparison. I actually think there is nothing wrong with being slightly wide, I personally would prefer it if I was a little bit wider, whilst I’m not unhealthily skinny I feel like I’m completely shapeless and boring. A bit like a pencil.

But the main point of this blog post is to talk about the saying “we are what we eat.” I don’t think this is true and I think it’s sayings like these that make people go on unhealthy diets of only juice or only salad or whatever. You’ve just got to be sensible with your food, I don’t think eating one burger at the weekend is going to make you fat, nor is eating 20 chicken nuggets (although it might not be good for you). People just need to chill with food I feel, if they want to eat something they should eat it but they should also think about what’s a healthy amount of a particular thing to consume, but if they decide to consume that then it’s their choice. I can understand the mental feelings behind eating food, such as, if you’re really healthy and eat loads of vegetable based lunches and dinners and then one night you decide to get some chips from the chip shop that’s fine, but I know that because they eat healthy and then have that thing they’re craving they feel disgusting because of eating it but I think that’s unnecessary, if your body is craving it then I don’t see why you shouldn’t eat it. As long as your balancing out a good diet a few unhealthy things here and there doesn’t make you a bad person nor does it make you fat.

You also have to think about your body shape and how your body naturally works. I always have people say to me that I’m just naturally so skinny and they wish they were, but instead they have to go on loads of diets to be skinny. This is unnecessary. If your body is naturally a particular shape even if you eat a good diet there is no need to change your diet to make yourself skinnier, your body is the way it is for a reason. Don’t change who you are.

Of course I’m not saying it’s quite as easy as just changing your mindset because it can be hard when you feel like you’re not as skinny as other people and really you should be as skinny as them, but they’re healthy being that skinny and your body wouldn’t be healthy being that skinny if it is not it’s natural state.

Another important thing is not to change who you are to please others, if you feel like you’re overweight or you want to get skinnier find a way to do it healthily, don’t just decide one day that you’re only going to eat proper meals 2/7 days a week and the other days you’re going to drink juice and eat salad because that’s not a healthy way to live, let alone lose weight. If your body is used to a lot of unhealthy food, suddenly cutting it all out of your diet will be unhealthy because your body will be hungry 24/7. Exercise is also important, exercise is a normal activity for humans and it’s something we all need to do to remain at top form, don’t cut out exercise and eat salad instead because this will not give you the results you need. You need to eat healthy, nutricious food but you also need to exercise. It can’t be either, or, it has to be both. But you can also eat something unhealthy if you feel like it, eating one chocolate bar a week is not going to kill you, if it pleases you in the moment there’s no need to feel bad about it later.

I really hope you enjoyed this blog post or could relate to it in some way. If you have anything to add please leave a comment down below as I would love reading your opinions on it!

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That’s all for now!

Inspired Teen 🙂

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The ‘Bad Boy’ Trend

Hey guys, so I know this is quite late on a Sunday and I have definitely not really followed my two posts a week thing so far but I will post three next week to make up for it – I’m going to write this post and then schedule one (hopefully!).

So firstly, can I just say that I actually wrote most of this post the other day and it was really good and then I logged back on today only to discover that the draft never saved so I have to start from scratch…

Anyway… let’s get into the post!

I have noticed an increasing amount of TV, film and literature is promoting this whole ‘bad boy’ trend thing that is going on. What I mean by ‘bad boy’ trend is when there is a character that’s really rude and makes a female character really upset and angry at him but then she still ends up falling head-over-heels for him and she can suddenly forget how horrible he is, in fact, she doesn’t ever even forget how horrible he is she just decides to live with it. I feel like this is an incredibly unhealthy and damaging trend to be going at the moment. The more that trends like these are considered acceptable or even ‘desirable’ the worse off people are going to be. It is not healthy or desirable to be in an abusive relationship or to be in a relationship where the person is making you unhappy, no matter what their physical appearance may be.

One of the reasons I have decided to write this blog post is for all those young, vulnerable boys and girls out there who are around 11-13 and they’ve started to develop all these hormones, emotions and feelings that they don’t understand and they look to books, film and TV to help them make sense of what their going through. This is a natural thing, or it is for me anyway, to do. If you’re feeling a particular way and it’s confusing you, you seek out things that are going to reassure you that others have been through the same thing and feel the same way at one time or another. I just have this fear that people around the age of 11-13 are going to be looking for answers to all their feelings and the information they’re going to be treated with is going to be that they should desire a really horrible, rude, selfish, idiot as a potential boyfriend rather than someone that’s nice, has an interest in them, compliments them, loves them, cares about them, enjoys their company etc. and I just want to know that I’ve at least provided these people with a source that says that, that’s not the case. I also don’t want guys to be watching or reading these things and changing who they are because they think that they will be more likeable to others by acting like a jerk because it’s not true!

To be honest, I much prefer it when I’m reading a book and there’s a genuine nice guy, from start to finish! Thinking about it now I think that’s one of the reasons why Augustus Waters from TFIOS was so popular and it’s because he was a genuine nice guy who spoke his feelings and interest in Hazel Grace straight from the start and was always nice and polite to her and it’s such an unusual thing now to have a genuine nice person in books – they always turn out to be more of a jerk than you were expecting and then you’re really disappointed.

I’m going to tell you a story about my childhood; when I was younger my Mum never approved or let me watch things featuring damaging relationships and I always got annoyed, not because I desperately wanted to watch things with ‘damaging relationships’ in them but because I thought it looked good and I didn’t understand why she objected, was it because of explicit content? Swearing? and I could never get to the bottom of it and whenever I asked her to explain her reasoning she always said it was because she thought it was ‘misrepresentative and hurtful’ to someone that was at the age I was and I always thought it was ridiculous reasoning and just ended up generally being annoyed but now that I’m older I understand her reasoning and I am so incredibly grateful for the decisions she made about my wellbeing and growth on my behalf because I know that if she had let me watch and read all of these things when I was too young to understand that it wasn’t something to aspire to then I would have grown up wanting to be in relationships like the ones portrayed in TV, film and books and then I would have ended up unhappy.

I guess this is also a message to all the people out there who are currently living in a relationship where the guy is horrible to you but has his nice days so you decide he’s worth it, he’s not, you can do much better! There is someone out there who will treat you right, someone out there who deserves to be loved by you. I know this post sounds like it’s slightly sexist and homophobic as I’m not talking about same-sex relationships and I’m also only talking about the guy being the one who is behaving badly and unreasonably but for the purposes of this post and to fit in with the title it kind of had to be about this specific kind of relationship but I’m sure it happens in all relationships and both the people in the couple can be guilty.

Another story is that I once knew a girl who was going out with a boy and every week she would come to the activity that I knew her from and tell stories about what her boyfriend had done now and by the sounds of it he was always being quite childish by ignoring her for silly things or standing her up at the last minute to hang out with his friends or something and we always asked her why she didn’t break up with him and her answer was always that he was nice and that he cared about her; but this was obviously only some of the time and he obviously brought her loads of stress and upset, I don’t know if there was something deeper that was making the situation harder to deal with but from the sounds of it there wasn’t. I imagine there was also an internal part of her that was criticising herself and her mind was telling her that she couldn’t do better than him and that if she broke up with him she would never find anyone else and I think it’s trends like the ‘bad boy’ trend that tell us that this is the case. Or they tell us that deep down the guy loves us and is just emotionally damaged.

I think one of the things that makes it hard to properly realise that the relationship is damaging is because from an entertainment perspective as a reader or watcher you do tend to like the ‘bad boy’ and as you get older or you analyse it in more detail you realise that whilst you like him for the purposes of fiction you wouldn’t like him in real life. I always like the ‘bad boys’ in fiction because they are the most interesting, and in fiction they always are emotionally damaged and there is so much going on internally and throughout the film or book you’re getting to know them and understand why they are that way and it’s enjoyable from an audience perspective. It’s also usual for the love-interest of the ‘bad boy’ to be kind of dull and characterless and so compared to the love interest the ‘bad boy’ is just a much better choice of favourite character but in real life I know I wouldn’t be able to put up with the nonsense. For a young person however, who is just starting to develop all these feelings that they don’t understand for the first time I can see how they might mistake these feelings towards a favourite character as feelings other than what they are and because they’re young they can’t analyse what the feeling really means. An example is, when I was was younger and I started to kind of develop and my hormones were everywhere and I started to view people as attractive and started properly caring what I looked like and started feeling bad about myself and my body etc. etc. I mistakenly thought that because I saw a girl and thought she was pretty it meant that I was bisexual because I saw pictures of celebrities on the internet or in magazines and thought they looked pretty or even beautiful and I didn’t understand the difference, back then, between thinking a female was really attractive and thinking a male was really attractive if I found them both pleasing to look at that must mean I was bisexual.B I was young and although I understood about sex and reproduction and that whole process I never really made the connection between all the different things and so I thought for at least a year maybe, that I was bisexual although I never told anyone because I wasn’t sure. As I got older I realised that I wasn’t bisexual and I was infact heterosexual and definitely not attracted to females, but as everyone does, I do still see females on the street and think they’re attractive and pretty but more in a comparing-myself-to-them way rather than anything more. I walk down the street all the time and wish I could look like the person that has just walked past me or I watch a YouTuber or see an actress and wish I could look like her but it’s not the same thing and I realised that as I grew up. I feel like the ‘bad boy trend’ is going to cause lots of confusion for young people growing up and I think it’s really unhealthy. I accept that it’s interesting and enjoyable to read about but I feel like there should be more emphasis put on how it isn’t the only or most popular and ‘cool’ relationship to be in. I guess I wish there was a bit more of a balance for young people growing up so they were exposed to more positive relationships.

Okay, so I feel like I’ve spoken about that enough. If you have anything to add to the discussion – even if you would like to disagree with the points I’ve made, please leave a comment down below as I would love to know your thoughts!

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My Absence + The Future Of This Blog

Hey guys, so I know I have been so absent over the last couple of months – just seen that I only posted three times in September (so much for being a daily blogger!) and I am so sorry! When I started this blog back in May it was all very new and exciting to me and I saw that I was getting loads of great feedback almost immediately and I loved it and it was really motivating me to write, it was also around about the time that my exams ended (kind of) and so I had a bit of time to just sit back and relax and really enjoy this new time I had available when I wasn’t studying but then I had loads of drama things come up (which is a really great thing) and I’ve also started studying for next year’s GCSEs because I know that I need to work harder for these exams because the subjects are harder. So basically, my life has been really hectic over these last few months and there’s been birthday celebrations going on and a whole load of other things. I guess, when I say hectic, it hasn’t been too bad or difficult to manage but I just haven’t had time to properly sit down and work out a schedule yet but I’m going to do that before the end of the week.

It feels really weird to be studying for GCSEs almost like a normal student even though I’m home-educated, and whilst I don’t like to define my education as ‘not normal’ because I feel like it’s a good thing and is better suited to some people (like me), I also do feel like I don’t lead the ‘normal’ life that most people my age lead and I haven’t done throughout my life either, and whilst I don’t think I’m any different to the people that go to school it does feel like there’s a certain connection with people that I can’t share. At least not until I go to sixth form. But at the same time, having started studying for my GCSEs I now feel like I can talk about my subjects and how stresseful I’m finding them or how I’m liking this subject etc. and have it be considered relevant. Anyway, that was a completely pointless tangent that I just went off on for no reason.

So, the main point of this post was to talk about the future of this blog, I feel like when I started out as a daily blogger I was a bit too ambitious and not really thinking about the things that were going to be happening in the very close future, so having revised my previous plan I have now decided that maybe 2-3 posts a week would be better because not only does it lessen the pressure of having to write posts, 2-3 posts isn’t that difficult to schedule all in one day – it doesn’t take me all that long to write posts – and it would also mean that you were still getting new and regular posts from my blog (I hope that’s a good thing!). I think what happened and what caused the absence for a couple of months was that I started my blog and was very soon putting loads of pressure on myself to write a blog post everyday and sometimes it got to 11PM and I still hadn’t written anything and so I was desperately rushing to write a post before midnight and I just think that it was so unnecessary to put that amount of stress on myself, especially when I really love blogging. I absolutely adore it. It is a huge passion of mine. So after putting that much pressure on my life instead of just posting less regular I just stopped posting all together to get the stressful thing out of my life. So, expect to see 2-3 posts a week. The reason I say 2-3 is because I definitely plan to write 2 posts a week but I’m not definitely saying they’ll be 3, they will be if I have the time but obviously I can never guarantee how much time I’m going to have.

Another thing related to the future of this blog is December, I have decided that for December (no matter how short I am on time) I am going to write a post everyday for the whole month – just because I really love Christmas and the celebration of the new year. I haven’t got anything specifically planned yet post-wise but I am going to be doing lots of planning from now until the 1st of December so if you have any Christmassy posts that you would like to read please leave them in the comments down below and I will add them to the list of Christmassy posts to write throughout December – I am incredibly excited! Obviously I have to call my December series ‘Blogmas’ because otherwise it just wouldn’t be the same. I hope you guys are all as excited as I am! If any of you would like to be part of my Blogmas Series either by guest posting or doing a collaboration please just drop me an e-mail – aninspiredteen@gmail.com – as I would love everyone to get involved.

Talking about the future of my blog has just got me really excited! Because the thing is, although I’ve been absent I have been thinking about my blog and making plans, it’s just unfortunately all you guys can see is that I haven’t been writing anything – there are so many plans going on behind the scenes and I am so excited to write all of the posts that I have saved in a notebook and there is just so much that is going to be happening on this blog over the next few months and for the coming years so I really hope you will all stay and watch this space for all those exciting things to happen!

A couple of last minute things, if you have e-mailed me and I haven’t got back to you I am really sorry! I will be checking my e-mails and responding over the next few days. Also, if I have talked about guest posting or doing a collaboration I am definitely still going to do it – it’s just getting back on top of everything, sorry for being so rubbish!

The last thing, and I promise this is the last thing, is social media – I was thinking of starting a Instagram (especially for Blogmas) and I was wondering what you guys thought? Also, if any of you have an Instagram please leave your username below so I can get some ideas of what other people post, blog related. The other social media thing is my twitter account (@aninspiredteen), I don’t really know the content that people want me to post on there so I tend not to really tweet, so again if you could leave your twitter username down below so I can see what other people are tweeting and if you could give any tips or advice as to what you would look for on a bloggers twitter I would really appreciate it!

Thank you all so much for reading this post and for still being here after so long! You have no idea how much I appreciate it!

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That’s all for now!

Inspired Teen 🙂